Fem Domme compared withPro Dom for Women
I have the greatest respect for the women that are professional Dominatrices. They put a lot of work and time into their craft, work hard to keep up with marketing, finances, and the same problems that every small business entrepreneur runs into. They run into bad clients, they have people who waste their time, and they spend a LOT of time doing things that make the magic happen when a client arrives. I am going to have to do the same thing. I have already spent thousands on creating my magical space, and still have thousands left to go. In many ways we are doing the same sort of work, but in some, we are doing different things.
Overall, we both are trying to meet the needs of our clients. We both have to figure out what a client needs. Most of the time, when we meet with a new client, they don’t know what they want either, so it is up to the professionals to dig out those communication skills and start working it. We both offer a relationship that is fairly unidirectional. The client gives money for an experience. The professional provides that experience to the best of our ability.
I am going to make some generalizations, and it is for the sake of addressing most of our clients. Fem Dommes have clients that want some form of fantasy fulfillment. It isn’t about sex, per se. Most Fem Dommes don’t have sex with their cleints. It is about having someone in a role that they can’t get in their normal lives. They want to feel powerless, but know they are still safe. They want to role play a fantasy that turns them on. Most of the men that go to see a Dominatrix are married, have a good job, and are well adjusted for the most part.
Women go to see a Pro Dom for Women for many of the same reasons. They have fantasies they want to play out, but don’t have a willing or experienced partner that they can experience these fantasies with. One of the things, in my observation, is that women tend to want a different type of relationship. They want someone that will also listen to them, to make them feel appreciated, and make them feel attractive and pretty. Women in modern society are swamped with constant advertising that makes them feel badly about themselves. A Pro Dom for Women gives them an opportunity to be with someone with whom they can get their needs met in a personal sense, not just a fantasy fulfillment. A lot of my time is spent talking with my clients. There are still times where I will pull out the flogger and flog someone, and it can be part of the same session, but I spend a lot of our time talking instead of role playing.
I am NOT a therapist. I am NOT a psychiatrist. I am NOT a mental health expert. There are things that I can do with a client that a professional mental health care provider cannot do. I can tie them up, I can interact in their fantasies, I can touch them if that is what they need. Most mental health professionals have clear lines that they do not cross, and they should not. In the same vein, I am on the other side of that line, and I do not cross into their space. While what I do can be very therapeutic, I cannot provide professional therapy for them. I can give them a place to vent, but I am not qualified to direct their mental health. I stay in touch with a lot of professional therapists so that I can get the best advice from them. If they say, “This person needs to be in therapy,” I will refer them to a good trusted therapist who will respect that they work with a Pro Dom for Women.