My general approach is to help guide and lead whoever surrenders to me.  I am not there to punish when things go wrong, I am there to encourage.  I can incorporate punishment into play, but as far as real life goes, encouragement is much more appropriate.  My job is not to expect perfection but to cheer on and give congratulations when things go right.

I see my job as to help those who surrender to me become the best version of themselves that is possible.  I am more of life-coach than fantasy fulfillment.  I suspect that women seek out a Professional Dominant for reasons other than to be sexually excited.  I suspect that women seek out someone who will give them emotional support, encouragement, give them structure, really listen to them, and sometimes a little fantasy fulfillment, too.  

I have been told, “There are no male Professional Dominants because women can get their fantasies fulfilled anytime they want.”

One of my clients has informed me, “Pretty young women can get their fantasies fulfilled.”  Pretty young men can get their fantasies fulfilled as well.  For most women, you have the same problem as most men. You have unfilled desires and interests that you can’t get met just anywhere, and if they involve something more daring, how do you find someone who isn’t crazy and knows what they are doing?  

Hire a professional.

My approach to being a Professional Dominant:

If you are chosen, it is because I see potential in you to become more than you are. 

I will accept you as you are, but I will not leave you that way.  I will help you find a path that helps you become a better and healthier woman.

I will reject some applicants because of attitude, refusal to follow instructions, or just being mean.  I surround myself with good people.  No one is perfect, and I will not accept anyone who thinks they are, because what will I be able to improve upon?

I have a very full life outside of being a Professional Dominant.  I have my own household to manage.  I am an executive at a company in Austin.  I am a father.  I am also on the board of one of the local kink groups, and I’m helping plan next year’s conference.

I do this because I have something that I can offer.  I have been told by many that I am very good at what I do, and I continuously seek to improve myself.

I have had instances in the past where jealousy reared its ugly head, and someone thought, “You are MINE.”

I explain like this —  If I am your Dominant, you are part of a much larger team.  Everyone has her own role to play, and that cannot be done by anyone else. 

Before we meet for a session, you will go to the resources section and completely fill out the limits and interests list.  I will not make you do something that you have told me that you are against doing.  It can be for whatever reason you want.  If you set down a topic as non-approachable, I will respect that.  

Limits change over time, and as we become more comfortable with each other, you are allowed to change your limits.  However, I cannot and will not change them for you.  You will have to request they be changed. We will periodically go through the list together and explore what you may want to try that you were unsure of in the past.

The limits list is a guide.  You can add to it if you need to.  Not everything is  covered.

My service is to be Dominant.  I am not going to submit to you or anyone else.  

I have been a submissive in my life, and I learned a lot from that experience.  However, it is NOT something that will happen with anyone else, so please don’t ask.

I do however listen to you.  I want to know what you think, what you feel, and what you believe.  I also consider requests very carefully.  If there is something you are interested in, please let me know. 

It takes a very strong woman to bend her will to be aligned with someone else’s.  Many have said that submission is a sign of weakness.  Those people have never been a submissive. 

Brats: We are not a good match. While I love to be playful at times, I do not accept right out disobedience and brattery.  If you don’t wish to submit your will, then don’t look to me as a Dominant.

You have to be able to take care of your own personal life.  While I can be a dominating presence in your life, I expect you to be able to live a meaningful life on your own. I will give my suggestions, but as you are not in my charge 24/7, I can not direct it on a  moment to moment basis.

I will accept submission, I will not take it.

I have mentioned this elsewhere, I do not outright disobedience and brattery.  If you wish to disobey a Dominant and be “punished” for it, go find someone who enjoys that type of thing.  There are plenty of them, I am not one.

That being said, if you feel that you have done something that needs to be punished, bring it up to me, and we will determine an appropriate corrective action.  If you want to be spanked, simply make that request.  You don’t have to do something wrong to be spanked.

Please keep in mind, not all punishment is corporal. 

If you want to be in control, then be a Pro Domme.  There are plenty of men who want to be talked to like they are worms.  I require respect and honesty.  I prefer a touch of humility as well.

There are certain limits I have in this role.  

No Animals. Pet play is one thing, beastiality is something different.  I don’t do beastiality.

No one under 18 years

No gun play

I am not bi-sexual and will not be sexually interactive with a man in any way

No smoking in my studio

No brown showers

I currently do not have the set up for doing suspension bondage.

 

I expect you to have limits as well.  I know there are some submissives (male and female) who want to have no limits.  If that is the case, we will have a discussion about limits and how they are good and necessary.

For our purposes,  limits are what provide us a safe place where we can explore and play. Inside that safe play space are boundaries.  Boundaries are where you are comfortable, I will push these occasionally, but only to the point where we meet the limits.  Beyond that, it is not safe, and I want you to know you are always safe.  

The main goal for you as my client is to help you become the best version of yourself that you can possibly be.  This may mean that I push you to conquer your fears, accept that you are beautiful just the way you are, or correct destructive behaviors.  Everyone has something that can make them better, and I am there to help you on that journey.  

 I  want to help you discover who you are when no one else is looking, and help you accept that person.